Judgement: Bullying / Prejudice

Judgment

Bullying / Prejudice

Judgment is a very big issue in our society. Along with that is making decisions without having all the correct information or “jumping to conclusions”.

When judging, we create a downward spiral that is all based on incorrect assumptions. A conversation cannot be built around this and the situation just gets worse.

In most cases, we think we know the situation, but we may not. There is not a way to determine we are on the correct path without asking questions and having a conversation. Our tone of voice creates an adversarial situation in many cases. We need to check the validity of our thoughts and words.

Everybody say, "I reap what I sow." We all get caught in the trap.

The following two paragraphs came from Facebook posts and illustrate situations related to judgment. The sources are unknown.

You can’t let people scare you. You can’t go your whole life trying to please everyone else. You can’t go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think. Whether it’s your hair, clothes, what you have to say, how you feel, what you believe and what you have. You can’t let the judgment of others stop you from being you. Because if you do, you’re no longer you. You’re someone everyone else wants you to be.

The boy you called a “gay boy” in the hall at school today. He committed suicide a few minutes ago. That girl you called a slut in class today. She’s a virgin. The boy you called lame. He has to work every night to support his family. That girl you pushed down the other day. She’s already abused at home. That girl you called fat. She’s starving herself. The old man you made fun of because of the ugly scars. He fought for our country. The boy you made fun of for crying. His mother is dying. You think you freaking know them. Guess what? You don’t.

So evaluate yourself first. Are you guilty? Make sure you are fully informed and then choose your words wisely.

We need to also share differences in a positive way that will allow the other person(s) to understand the whole situation. Create a good environment that allows a healthy exchange of information.

Matthew 7:1 "Don't judge and criticize and condemn others, so that you may not be judged and criticized and condemned yourselves."

It's the Little Things

It’s the Little Things….

How much do we notice as we go through a day? Lisa Beamer on Good Morning America - If you remember, she's the wife of Todd Beamer who said 'Let's Roll!' and helped take down the plane over Pennsylvania that was heading for Washington, DC back on 9/11.

She said it's the little things that she misses most about Todd, such as hearing the garage door open as he came home, and her children running to meet him.
Lisa recalled this story:

"I had a very special teacher in high school many years ago whose husband died suddenly of a heart attack. About a week after his death, she shared some of her Insight with a classroom of students. As the late Afternoon sunlight came streaming in through the classroom Windows and the class was nearly over, she moved a few things side on the edge of her desk and sat down there.  With a gentle look of reflection on her face, she paused and said, 'Class is over, I would like to share with all of you, a thought that is unrelated to class, but which I feel is very important. Each of us is put here on earth to learn, share, love, appreciate and give of ourselves. None of us knows when this fantastic experience will end.  It can be taken away at any moment.

Perhaps this is God's way of telling us that we must make the most out of every single day. Her eyes, beginning to water, she went on, 'so I would like you all to make me a promise. From now on, on your way to school, or on your way home, find something beautiful to notice.  It doesn't have to be something you see, it could be a scent, perhaps of freshly baked bread wafting out of someone's house, or it could be the sound of the breeze slightly rustling the leaves in the trees, or the way the morning light catches one autumn leaf as it falls gently to the ground. Please look for these things, and cherish them. For, although it may sound trite to some, these things are the "stuff" of life.  The little things we are put here on earth to enjoy.  The things we often take for granted.

The class was completely quiet. We all picked up our books and filed out of the room silently. That afternoon, I noticed more things on my way home from school than I had that whole semester. Every once in a while, I think of that teacher and remember what an impression she made on all of us, and I try to appreciate all of those things that sometimes we all overlook.

Take notice of something special you see on your lunch hour today. Go barefoot. Or walk on the beach at sunset.  Stop off on the way home tonight to get a double dip ice-cream cone. For as we get older, it is not the things we did that we often regret, but the things we didn't do.

If you like this, please pass it on to a friend, If not, just delete it, and go on with your life!  Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

GOD Bless you every day of your life. The nicest place to be is in someone's thoughts; The safest place to be is in someone's prayers, And the very best place to be is.... In the hands of God.